3 simple tips on self care and acceptance.

How many of us can say that we are guilty of trying to be around people that we have no business being around? Raise your hand don’t be shy!! I myself have been guilty of this. What makes us do that though? How far have we fallen as human beings to think that we must submit to desperation and feed into the hands of bad company. It’s time that we starve our fears and feed our focus.

Rule #1. Realization

It’s beautiful being around good people with genuine hearts and souls. But 9/10 the people you come across today, are not looking to build bonds for the sake of good pleasure, motivation and camaraderie. Most are in desperate need to use you for personal vendettas that have been bestowed upon due to insecurities and lack of self love.

It’s okay to be alone then to be surrounded by bad company. You are the pilot of your own life and you must make every choice a wise one or it’ll be your plane stuck in the clouds. Not by any way shape or form am I telling you to write people off as soon as you meet them. But don’t be naive either, understand that every decision you make can be what elevates or diminishes you.

Rule #2. Normalization

This might be the most important out of all that will be listed. Everyone has a purpose in this life and chasing after people is definitely without a doubt NOT it. Normalize enjoying your own company before being around other people all the time. It’s a blessing to be able to break bread with your fellow brethren. But you never want to become dependent on something that can end at anytime.

People change, things change, life changes…

You’re a person, so you can choose yourself and enjoy being around the best person you know, the person you see in front of the mirror. Love yourself so much that you create time just to be alone because your self presence means more to you than anyone or anything.

Rule #3. Choose people who choose you.

They say that you can’t choose who you’re born into, but you have the choice of everyone else after who you let in your life. We all make mistakes sometimes and choose unwisely and that’s okay. But your goal with every person you meet is that when they enter your life that you can be there for them just as they are for you. Lifting you up, teaching you, healing you when needed. Having the opportunity to have loyal and trustworthy people on your side is a feeling like no other.

You don’t need to be surrounded by an army, but as long as you have real genuine people that will ride or die for you then you will always have an army within and will never have to walk alone.




God Fearing Young-Adult Writer/Poet. My work consists of Passion, purpose and patience. Put your hands on these words and feel what I’m saying.

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God Fearing Young-Adult Writer/Poet. My work consists of Passion, purpose and patience. Put your hands on these words and feel what I’m saying.

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